Is your perspective killing you?

July 15, 2017





I have mentioned this before and is something I will mention many times over. 

Your perspective will determine your whole life. 

If we have a victim perspective, we will be a victim. 
If we have a rejected perspective, we will be the rejected. 
If you have a fear perspective, everything will be fearful to you. 
If you have a "I can't" perspective, you won't. 

Our perspectives are shaped from the moment we are born really. They say we come to our whole world view by the time we are five. But I BELIEVE despite this, we have the power to choose to change that perspective, if need be. 

We can allow life to dictate to us or we can dictate to it. Everything is a choice, even when things are done to us we have a choice in how we handle it and how it will either rule us or we will rule it. For some this is much harder than it is for others because of the things they have to over come. BUT not impossible. I am a living testament of this truth, as are many people we all look up to in history. 

When it comes to our perspectives I often think about the parable of the talents. We are each given different amounts and with each a certain responsibility to use them wisely and not foolishly. 

For example one person comes from a family with generations of Christians and does not have a broken home and the other only a second generation Christian and comes from a broken home. 

You would expect for the first to come with a bag full of well managed and used talents. The second maybe to only have a few. But did the first have to go and dig up the ones that were buried? Had they even been being used? The second just getting theirs and trying to figure out how to use them as well.

Both with totally different perspectives, yet only one truth, and only one way. 

Struggle is a part of life and it is good for you. THERE I said it. No pain no gain. There is truth in this I'm sorry to say. This does not give us reason to avoid the hard, painful, at times even traumatizing thing. 
Don't believe me? Ask Jesus. 

Be free to be yourself and who God made you to be, while still in line with His heart and His word. That's part of the struggle that brings the changes in  your perspective to one of love instead of selfishness. One of power instead of fear. One of faith instead of unbelief.  

I am constantly bringing my perspective before the Lord. Does this perspective actually align with your vision, your heart, your word, your Spirit?? If not well then I better change it! 

The Lord created all of the earth and all of its people. How is my perspective helping those two? How is my perspective drawing me closer to The Creator? 

Remember we never make a decision based on money or fear. We never let these shape our perspective. Be wise and be a good steward, yet make sure that wisdom is from above and that being a "good" steward is not just you being afraid of making a mistake. Make a few, it's ok. 

So...
 If you have an

I can do this perspective, you can ( with lots of struggle and sweat and probably heart ache) 

If you have an I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me perspective, you can. 

Where the the Spirit of The Lord is there is freedom!!
2 Cor. 3:17

Love 



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Sneak Peak of our 10 Year Vow Renewal Party

June 22, 2017

When you first get married, no matter the circumstances surrounding it, you have a certain amount of hope bubbling inside of you. The days and years that follow your vows can be testing and trying, painful even. The hope that once filled your heart can quickly become fear of losing it all.

It's a fight for love. Never something that is just easily there. The world will tell you that if its really love that it should be easy. I call bull on that. Love is the hardest and highest reward all at the same time. And like all things good in life, working through the hardest parts will reward you with the greatest gifts.

Luke and I have been through so much in our 10 years of marriage. We had days, months, years that I wondered if we would make it out the other side. I can honestly say I love him more now than I did then.We have through it all created so much beauty. We have found so much joy in the gifts that the Lord has given us. At His feet we have found joy, love, and beauty beyond what I thought was possible. It's through all the hard parts of life that you really find the beauty, going through the storms, not around them.

This day was all I had imagined it to be and I can not say enough how thankful I am.

Here is a sneak peak of our 10 year vow renewal party that we had here on our land. When I share the whole party I will also share how I did all of it on a tight budget and where I went cheap and where I splurged a little.



















and
everyone that loved us and served us on this day. 
Love 


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A Brother From Another Mother

June 10, 2017

If you follow me on Social Media at all I've dropped a hint here and there as to what we are up to lately.

I know over the past few years I have been more silent than talkative. All for good reason, God has been up to so much in our lives. I have been in the school of learning and growing; hoping soon I can begin to share more and more depth with you. I have been learning the greatest lesson in all of life; to fight for what is right and good and find yourself there, instead of fighting for yourself and actually losing yourself instead.

If you go back over my blog, have followed along since the beginning, or if you have known me even for a minute you know that I am passionate about the life of children, when it comes to adoption, abortion, actually putting your money and actions to your beliefs. While there is much that I cannot share with you, today I get the great pleasure of getting to share this with you....

Tears are coming as I actually post this...dreams do come true...

We are adopting a little boy from Nigeria!






















Can you believe after all this time it's real!!???

Thank you to everyone who has believed with me and prayed for us!

Now I am asking for you to believe with us and pray with us a little longer. We have not been matched yet all the paper work is being sent off to Nigeria. It took 3 months just to do the paper work. On top of the expenses of adopting we also will have to travel to Nigeria for 3 months to get our new sweet baby. Be a part of the change and helping the millions of orphans who have no family by helping the one.

If you would like to make a tax deductible donate towards our adoption you can visit HERE.

If you would like to buy a t-shirt or coffee mug that the proceeds go towards our adoption go HERE.

I am beyond over joyed that 
I get to celebrate and share this experience with you
love 
B  

















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How To Run

January 18, 2017








Here's a try at my first video!
I know it will help! You take the first steps I am behind you cheering you on!



If we can create these habit's, even on a small scale daily, we will begin to see a change in the way we actually accomplish our goals and weed out the distractions.

"Then the LORD answered me and said, "Record the vision And inscribe it on tablets, That the one who reads it may run."
Habakkuk 2:2 

Prayer: Every Day. I am learning more and more every day how important prayer is and how it helps to bring clarity, hope, and courage to keep pressing on and fighting the good fight. Relationship with the Holy Spirit and what He is doing is the only way to make life work. Falling in love with Jesus is the reward of our lives, His face is our goal in all that we do.

How To Start:

Brain Dump: A brain dump is one of our favorite tools to help keep stress down, stay organized, and get more accomplished. The idea is that you have all these tasks, lists, to-do's, all bouncing around in your head all the time. Pay the bills, water the flowers, get bread from the store, pick the kids up from school, call your mom, etc. on and on and on. When you carry a ton of to-do's around in your head all the time it creates additional stress, because you are constantly trying to remember everything and constantly worried that you may have just forgotten something. In comes the brain dump. Picture your brain as a bucket, and your tasks as a bunch of odd's and end's in that bucket. The brain dump is to simply turn that bucket over and dump it out - onto a piece of paper. You sit, and you write down every single task, list, need, to-do that you can come up with. Every single one. As more to-do's and ideas come to you write them down (this can also be done electronically). They will be messy, raw, and not put together that is ok! The whole point is to get all that messy out of your head causing stress and get it written down so you can make since of it all. When you get it all out of your head, you no longer have to feel the stress to constantly remember it all.

You can also brain dump ideas, plans, goals, and any other things bouncing around your head onto separate lists.

Rough Draft: Now you will take all your random, messy, raw brain dumps and make a rough draft out of them. This could be for an idea you have for a room in your house, a business idea, a ministry idea, and out reach, or just your daily to-do's; the possibilities are endless.

Smooth it out: make it TANGIBLE: Read over it, pray over it a lot, read over it again, re-write it until you have written it into a tangible idea, task, business plan.

Transfer: Now take your vision and put it to the project you are working towards.
A blog, a web-site, work over seas, a project for your family, or re-doing your house... etc.

Make a to do list: Even if your to do list is longer than your day, week, year, WRITE IT DOWN, get it out of your head, this will help to reduce stress. You will slowly work away at your do to list checking off tasks and adding new ones.

TIME-

Set Time: When you set time for specific tasks and work at them within that set time frame it is easier to be more focused and present. The key here is to really work at only doing those things within that set time.

For example:
If I set time to write during that set time; I should only write. If I set time aside to spend family time I should guard it with my life and only do family time. Of course there will be days and time to make exceptions but the key here to make this work, is to respect your set time and in return make others respect that time as well. This helps you to not feel guilty or upset about the things you are not accomplishing or giving set focused time to. This makes it so that you can really sit down and say what is really important to me as a person or us as a family. Weed out the time that you spend on things that in the end don't matter to you or that leave you feeling empty. And of course the biggest key here is asking the Lord what those things are!!

Manage: Manage this time carefully and with forethought. There are two ditches, One saying yes to everything and not accomplishing any thing that matters to you, or saying no to everything and never even trying to go after the things the Lord is calling you too. Pray and plan so that you can go after these things and stay on the path and not in a ditch.

Plan: Make a plan, plan out your days and weeks! Plan your day out the best you can while still being flexible. Look at your week and put aside SET times and days for things such as:
- Family time
- Time with the Lord
- One-on-one time with your spouse
- Cleaning
- Date Night
- Community
- Reading
- Working on a project etc....


When making these list, plans, goals here are the keys to help:

- Pray; what is the Lord saying for you to focus on as an individual, as a family, as a community
- Make it tangible. Be realistic. While still pushing yourself to meet the MAIN priorities.
- What is important not popular or grand but important.
- Make a list of priority, from greatest to least.
- Accomplish what you have set out before adding more. Say no if it does not line up. Take things off and add others.

Love 
L & B 





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Advent Christmas 2016

December 21, 2016

I am still here. I am still breathing. Is that how any of you feel?
I have been determined this Christmas season to be focused on Christ and on family. Lesson I have learned is that next year I will start letting everyone know that in November. ha. I don't care what anyone says I love thinking about goals in the month of December that will be writing down and planning on working on starting in January. Do you? Do you have any easy ways that you implement these goals?

I also love looking back over the year and remembering the bad/hard experiences and recognizing what I can learn from learn. And of coarse remembering all the beauty and blessing despite the freaking hard, hard crap that seems to want to swallow you whole.

And while all these are great things and I love doing them, trying to slow down and focus is my favorite. Yet way, way harder than you may think. So keep fighting for whats important to you and not all these other opinionated haters ( silly face here)

We used an advent book this year and if you follow me on IG you have seen all that we have been doing. If not check it out. On my fb page I have posted some video's.


"The word Advent means coming. It is to prepare ourselves for the coming of Christ. To behold the one who has come. To behold the one who dwells among us now. And to behold the one who will come again."
Slow + Sacred Advent
Jennifer Naraki




I can't wait for January I have so many exciting things planned. For now I am here at home with my babies and I am finding so much joy in it when I choose too.














Merry Christmas 
love 
The Stasi Tribe 



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Farm Life

October 17, 2016

We have been in a consent forward motion since we put our house on the market back in February. Living on this farm was not what I thought I would be doing. I have determined that my life is not my own. That's means I go where He tells me to go. With that said trusting Him is beautiful. This place has been good for my heart and is just one more step in testing if my faith is genuine.

Just since May I have learned things I never knew. I didn't know about Chickens, or goats, or dogs or rabbit's. And while I am no expert now, I know much more than I did. My sweet friend took these pictures of us this summer shortly after we moved in and started this whole journey.

I believe whole heartally in hard work. It's good for the Spirit, mind, body, and soul. I also, believe in rest. It's a combo of the two that make a beautiful existence. Teaching my kids hard work is more hard work for me, haha, but the reward is great. If they are going to have pride let it be in a job well done, and worked hard for.

Our children, just like us, have strengths and weaknesses. One thing that Luke and I try to do is direct them both, the good and the not so good, in a positive foot forward. For example, if your child is super stubborn give them a task that is difficult for them to do, push them in it when they want to give up, and when they accomplish it watch them beam with excitement. Now they are taking all that stubbornness and instead of it being a curse to them it has now become a blessing to their life. They will start to direct all that energy into things that interest them and ect. to accomplish their dreams and aspirations.

Not that I have it all figured out by any means, these are just some of the motherhood tips that I have. Motherhood is an ever learning, ever growing job, that we all hope to figure out at some point.











































































































Photo's By: Quilt and Color Photo 



This is not a portrait of us every day. Yes, every day we do barn chores but life has ebs and flows and every day is slightly different than the day before. On school days my amazing Haddie and Judah go down and do their barn chores alone before school.

Hope you enjoyed 
love 


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